Updated: Jan 31, 2021
Sometimes my world has been a mess too. Or at least I thought it was. Perhaps it wasn’t, but at the time, I was in a typhoon of emotion and swirling in feelings of helplessness. In my younger years, there were moments when I felt numb. I wondered how I was ever going to feel any different. Being stressed about money or failed relationships, my struggles were real and the moods felt crushing. Sometimes it was a larger crisis. It hurt to breathe. It was too much effort to move. It was hard to imagine a time in the future where I wouldn’t feel exactly how I was feeling at that time.
What helped me through those times? Hands down, it would be talking to someone who understood. Or quite possibly they didn’t understand, but they cared enough to listen! Maybe it was a friend or co-worker. If there wasn’t a person around, sometimes I talked to the dog. He would look at me with a “what’s in it for me?”, but a good ear scratch held his attention for as long as I needed it.
Then there were times I needed someone a little more expert, objective, and not personally connected, so I saw a counsellor.
At first, I was apprehensive too, after all, what could a stranger do for me that I couldn’t do myself? But life gave me a push and in university, I saw a psychologist who helped me climb out of a personal struggle. Years later, I saw a fertility counsellor who helped me understand the strange new world of infertility. Finally, feeling “stuck” on my career path, I saw a career counsellor which gave me the boost I needed to find a new direction.
So you ask, what can this counsellor do for you?
I will listen and care about what you are going through. I’ll give you time to wallow in your low mood, and then challenge you to step outside your comfort zone. Sitting with you through your anxiety, I’ll encourage you to be open to explore ways to feel less anxious. There is no promise of a cure, but there can always be a window of hope.
What may be bothering you, may not be bothering someone else, and this can cause alot of “what’s wrong with me?” feelings. People around you seem to be able to handle stress better or don’t seem to be stressed at all, yet you find yourself struggling to even want to get up in the morning. The moods, the emotions, the pain, and the nothingness can be overwhelming. Living in the grip of this turmoil, with the inability to figure out how to change it, is exhausting.
Especially in this past year, everyone’s mental health has been affected. Now more than ever, it is okay to reach out for support. Talk about what is bothering you in a safe, non-judgemental space, or we can even rewind…to “figure out” what is troubling you. As a trained professional, I can help you with these emotions, help you connect past events with present thoughts, and guide you in making important changes to feel better. And yes, I do believe any of us can feel better.
When your pet is done listening, it’s time to take back control. Be okay to reach out. Talk with someone who is skilled and will help you see the bigger picture and help you create a new story.